Excuse me, but why are sex toys still a taboo topic? We do not talk enough about them or, let me paraphrase that: we are constantly denying the fact that they exist and that it is completely healthy and normal to use one. Now that we have that established, let’s talk about the benefits of using sex toys, how to use them in the best possible way, and if you’re a newbie, how to choose the right sex toy for yourself. The sex toys on the market depend largely on your sex and your sexual orientation, so you can choose from flashlights and masturbators for guys, to vibrators, dildos and good flexi toys for women and the part of the LGBT population who is into that. But there is so much more to that – starting from the materials, the brands, everything. Take a look if you’re looking for your first sex toy or you want to know more about them. Know why you are using sex toys The first thing you should determine is the reason why you are using sex toys in the first place. Not only is this a great stress relief tool, or a tool that will make your masturbation even better, but it is good to use it in bed with your partner as well (more on that a bit later). In order to know which product you need, you first need to determine what the use for your sex toy is. For example, when you are choosing your first sex toy, it simply will not do to find the biggest one that you can find. 70% of women have an orgasm thanks to clitoral stimulation, which means that it is very important for them to find an external vibe. Internal vibes can be used externally as well, so this is the safest option. How to buy the best sex toy? Many ask the same question – how to actually buy their first sex toy. The answer is simple - go to the store and tell them exactly what you need. This might be quite embarrassing, especially if it’s your first time buying a sex toy, but know that the people who work there get new customers every single day, so it is definitely not unusual for them that you want to buy a sex toy. However, if you are really shy, you can buy sex toys online , but make sure that you do your homework beforehand. Not all sex toy brands are good, so it would be good to focus on trusted brands and reliable materials. Speaking of materials The sex toy is constantly going to be in contact with your genitalia, so the materials that you use indeed matter a lot. Jelly and rubber can sometimes be harmful as they are porous and thus hard to clean. As a result, the bacteria might linger on the masturbator or the vibrator, which can have serious consequences. The best materials to use are silicone, metal and glass – these are the materials that are always safe, and you can buy practically whatever sex toy you want that’s made out of these materials, without having anything to worry about. A quick tip to everyone out there: if you’re going to use a silicone sex toy, do not use a silicone lubricant with it. These two together will react and they will leave you with a ruined toy and an awful texture. Make it interesting in the bedroom Finally, the best way to experiment with your sex toy like a pro is to bring it into your relationship. This is still a taboo, and not many people talk about it, but it is definitely one of the healthiest ways to make your relationship, and most importantly, marriage , more interesting and fun. What you need to do though is talk about the actual sex toy that you are going to use. Regardless of the people in your relationship and their sexes, and regardless of the type of sex you are into, always make sure that your partner is fine with the sex toys you will be introducing. Talk about why you want to introduce that toy and once you do, you will be free to have some fun. Talking about sex toys is good. We should all use them, and we should all try and discover the power they have and how they make us feel. And if you want to use them with your special someone, go ahead and do it. But also, make sure to educate other people about them and talking about sex toys in general. It will be good for all of us.
On paper, bachelor parties look pretty simple – a bunch of dudes having a great time while celebrating their best friend’s impending farewell to bachelor life. What most guys fail to understand is that the thing we’ve described is just a starting point to an awesome experience. If you want to make the whole thing truly memorable for the groom, you have to work way harder than hitting the nearest pub and downing a couple of shots of tequila. What you are going to do will ultimately depend on your friends’ interests but we’ll give you a couple of good ideas to get you started. Go extreme Is there any better way to kick off the weekend than to allow your pack to get a boost of adrenaline that will keep them high through all the misdeeds you have intended? If your answer is no, why wouldn’t you sign up your friends for some adrenaline-filled extreme activity like skydiving, bungee jumping or going down a zip line? Try one of these and you will not only pump yourself up for the party but also rekindle the sense of camaraderie you might have lost somewhere along the way. Take the warpath We are of course talking about a paintball. In its essence, this activity is very similar to any of the extreme activities we have mentioned above – you will get your rush of adrenaline and a bunch of fond memories you will like to revisit in years to come. But, paintball has one unique perk here – an insane amount of stress release which is absolutely necessary for a good party. And you also get the opportunity to sort out the issues with the ladies from the “Team Bachelorette.” Have a themed party If your friend has some specific interest he’s very passionate about, throwing a themed party will make him ecstatic. It’s also a great opportunity for tons of fun and in-jokes for the rest of the company. For instance, if the groom is a passionate Trekkie, you can buy a couple of uniforms, get a good bloodwine supplement, watch a couple of movies from the series and finally, hit some themed bar or convention. The angry Klingon slur is highly prescribed. Go abroad Yeah, there is no better way to let off some steam than to travel abroad and take a glimpse at the world. Take, for instance, Australia, the land that has so much to offer you'll never run out of interesting things to do even if you stay there for a month. Stunning nature? Check. Iconic landmarks? Check. Exciting nightlife? Oh yeah. Having a once-in-a-lifetime bucks night in Sydney and not visiting one the famous Gentlemen's Clubs is just not the same. Remember, what happens in Australia stays in Australia. Take a trip down the memory lane If you and your friends have met in college or simply come from different places, here’s a great idea – why wouldn’t you contact some of the groom’s hometown friends, make a list of the iconic events and places from his wild youth and take him on a trip down the sweet memory lane? You’ll get the opportunity to get to know him much better, visit some of the places he holds dear and enjoy the bromance on a scale that exists only in movies. Go on a road trip The best thing about this idea is that it requires no planning whatsoever. On the contrary, the more unpredictable it is, the better. You will only need to find some random destination on the map and see what the fortune has in store for you. The opportunities for fun are endless. Hanging out with locals, hitting some of the roadside pubs, visiting roadside attractions… As long as your spirits are high and you are open for new things, every mile you pass will be a legendary adventure. Run to the hills Finally, if all these things sound too exhausting for you, you can simply pack camping gear , bring all the food and drink you can consume, and simply pay a visit to Mother Nature. Being far from the crowd doesn't mean you'll miss any of the fun. The fact that you are miles away from everyone only implies you can let yourself loose and party like it’s the 80s. An opportunity to show your manly survival skills is not to be underestimated, either. We hope these few ideas will help you to throw your friend the best bachelor party he can imagine. If you are in doubt about which option to choose, try mixing two or more of them and creating something truly fun. Bachelor parties are not something that happens every day. It is your duty as a good friend to make it as memorable as possible.
Marriage is, in its essence, a beautiful idea. Two people ready to share their lives, good times and the bad, perhaps raise a family as well and all that it entails. In most cases it is actually two people who are in love, know each other well, both emotionally and sexually. Unfortunately, it is only human to lose that spark that kept the passion going after a certain amount of time, especially when the inescapably mundane life situations drop the romantic veneer between the spouses. It happens to most, if not all, couples and it is perfectly natural – however, the process can be reversed, with a little bit of effort and will . Get it while it’s hot The one thing about sex is that it truly is about the moment. It is very easy to postpone the moment because you’re used to things being perfect – when you’re freshly showered, when you’re sleepy nor tired, when you’re not hungry or just eaten – however, the chances for this diminish as the marriage settles down into its rut. So don’t ignore it – the moment you feel the urge kick in, go for it, there’s no time like the present. It is a sad truth that if you do put it off, the chances for actually having sex diminish. I mean, the new season of Your Favorite Show has just come out, right? Get kinky Hey, we don’t judge here – no kinkshaming! Of course, you have to be sure that you are both into things before actually trying them out and that does require talking about your emotions openly. I mean, if anyone’s going to find out about your obsession with feet or love for the fur, who better than the person you are supposed to be spending the rest of your life with. The best part is that this particular rabbit hole tends to go quite deep – there are entire scenes dedicated to the various kinks out there. And if there’s anything sex life can always have more of – it’s the feeling of newness. Get sexty Hey, it’s 2019, if you haven’t been sexting in a while, you’re way behind the times. Yeah, we know you see each other every day, but you really should not be missing out on the virtual foreplay! Especially today, when the number of social network is literally growing on a daily basis. There are so many ways to keep in touch, including using video and photos only, that there is very little you can say in your defense if you are not using this very practical way to get things going even when you are at a distance. Keep it interesting, a sneak preview you Snapchat from the bathroom at work is a welcome bonus! Get some quality toys Although there might be some people out there who would suggest that the toys are exactly what removes sex from marriages the world round, we would beg to differ. Of course, the popular culture loves to connect sex toys with being a loner or in a marriage where one side is not “successful” in satisfying the urges of the other one. However, just like all other things, it only depends on the point of view. The moment you shed the puritanical and introduce the idea of toys in your sex life, you might realize that this is exactly the kind of fun you have been yearning for. Although there are all kinds of anatomically more or less correct shapes and sizes out there, one thing you should keep in mind is to always get the quality stuff . Otherwise you might end up disappointed, with a broken toy. Get creative Remember when there was less “standard” and more “oh” in your relationship? Don’t let nothing stop you from going back to the romantic, sexy, creative version of yourself from before the rut decided to set in. Take time off and run away from the city for a weekend. Prepare a romantic dinner for your spouse. Clean up, dress up and go for a night on town. Hell, if you’re both up for something like that, include a third person or a Mayfair escort in the equation. Whatever you do, make sure it reminds both of you of just how wildly seductive you can be. After all, that was what drew you together in the first place.