Updated: Jun 14, 2019
Over the last few years, I have become more and more interested in Eastern methods of healing, and I have been more skeptical of Western methods, including some of the practices in my own profession. In my view, Western practices tend to be more reactive, treatment-oriented, and they come from a short-term, sickness perspective. Eastern methods, on the other hand, are more preventative in nature, healing-oriented, and they come from a long-term, wellness perspective. Eastern medicine tends to focus on the whole person, which includes the mind, the body, the spirit, and the energy. Everything ties together and whatever healing processes that are recommended are designed to facilitate overall good health and balance.
I first became interested in yoga and meditation many years ago, and incorporated those practices into my personal life. Later on, I started having Reiki and Reflexology done on myself, then I decided to become a practitioner for both of those types of healing. I have found benefits from all of these, and I have recommended them to friends, family, and clients.
Recently, I have wanted to expand my knowledge and find other ways to facilitate healthy relationships, so I have continued my research. Part of that research has included reading the book Sexual Reflexology...Activating the Taoist Points of Love, by Mantak Chia and William U. Wei. The Taoists have taught on the subject of sexual energy for thousands of years. This book is a very good instructional manual for assisting couples to better understand their sexual energy, and to achieve overall well-being.
First, the authors begin by reviewing how Foot Reflexology is based on the premise that all of our organs have reflex points on other parts of the body. Sexual Reflexology gives applications using sexual reflex points, that are not all about the genitals. Taoists believe that when individuals and couples practices these techniques, they can have better health, improve intimate relationships, and become better lovers.
Very much like the teachings of the Kama Sutra, in the Taoist tradition, sexual energy was considered the path to vitality, and a way to intimately connect to the Divine. I have learned that in both traditions, marriages were arranged by families based upon careful research to make sure that the couple would be compatible sexually, emotionally, intellectually, and in other ways. It’s interesting to know that divorce tended to be rare, compared to the divorce rates in Western culture, where couples tend to experience a great deal of unhappiness and emotional difficulties.
After providing the historical foundation, the book goes into details giving instructions on ejaculation and menstrual management, correct breathing, ovary massage, and many different sexercises, including penis stretching. It talks about how the shape of certain facial features relates to personality, and genital structure. The authors also did a fine job of describing the healing lovemaking positions, and illustrating them.
For people who have no formal training in any of the Taoist practices, I would recommend reading the book to gain a better perspective on healthy relationships. It is also useful to the layperson with regards to many of the massage techniques and the self exercises that are described. For the partnered sexual healing positions, it would be safer if people had at least some training in Reflexology, Yoga, Meditation, and/or other types of Eastern healing.
To gain some experience or knowledge of these at the Sexology Institute, register for a Sensual Touch workshop, Ultimate Orgasms for Him and Her, Sex Yourself: The Art of Self-Pleasure, Techniques of the Kama Sutra, and private coaching from one of the coaches.