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Excuse me, but why are sex toys still a taboo topic? We do not talk enough about them or, let me paraphrase that: we are constantly denying the fact that they exist and that it is completely healthy and normal to use one. Now that we have that established, let’s talk about the benefits of using sex toys, how to use them in the best possible way, and if you’re a newbie, how to choose the right sex toy for yourself. The sex toys on the market depend largely on your sex and your sexual orientation, so you can choose from flashlights and masturbators for guys, to vibrators, dildos and good flexi toys for women and the part of the LGBT population who is into that. But there is so much more to that – starting from the materials, the brands, everything. Take a look if you’re looking for your first sex toy or you want to know more about them. Know why you are using sex toys The first thing you should determine is the reason why you are using sex toys in the first place. Not only is this a great stress relief tool, or a tool that will make your masturbation even better, but it is good to use it in bed with your partner as well (more on that a bit later). In order to know which product you need, you first need to determine what the use for your sex toy is. For example, when you are choosing your first sex toy, it simply will not do to find the biggest one that you can find. 70% of women have an orgasm thanks to clitoral stimulation, which means that it is very important for them to find an external vibe. Internal vibes can be used externally as well, so this is the safest option. How to buy the best sex toy? Many ask the same question – how to actually buy their first sex toy. The answer is simple - go to the store and tell them exactly what you need. This might be quite embarrassing, especially if it’s your first time buying a sex toy, but know that the people who work there get new customers every single day, so it is definitely not unusual for them that you want to buy a sex toy. However, if you are really shy, you can buy sex toys online , but make sure that you do your homework beforehand. Not all sex toy brands are good, so it would be good to focus on trusted brands and reliable materials. Speaking of materials The sex toy is constantly going to be in contact with your genitalia, so the materials that you use indeed matter a lot. Jelly and rubber can sometimes be harmful as they are porous and thus hard to clean. As a result, the bacteria might linger on the masturbator or the vibrator, which can have serious consequences. The best materials to use are silicone, metal and glass – these are the materials that are always safe, and you can buy practically whatever sex toy you want that’s made out of these materials, without having anything to worry about. A quick tip to everyone out there: if you’re going to use a silicone sex toy, do not use a silicone lubricant with it. These two together will react and they will leave you with a ruined toy and an awful texture. Make it interesting in the bedroom Finally, the best way to experiment with your sex toy like a pro is to bring it into your relationship. This is still a taboo, and not many people talk about it, but it is definitely one of the healthiest ways to make your relationship, and most importantly, marriage , more interesting and fun. What you need to do though is talk about the actual sex toy that you are going to use. Regardless of the people in your relationship and their sexes, and regardless of the type of sex you are into, always make sure that your partner is fine with the sex toys you will be introducing. Talk about why you want to introduce that toy and once you do, you will be free to have some fun. Talking about sex toys is good. We should all use them, and we should all try and discover the power they have and how they make us feel. And if you want to use them with your special someone, go ahead and do it. But also, make sure to educate other people about them and talking about sex toys in general. It will be good for all of us.

As a consumer, here is something that you should know. We (mental health providers in private practice) can/do diagnose. In order for you to use your insurance, and for us to get paid by them, we have to diagnose you with a mental illness, as per the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, from the American Psychiatric Association. I'm serious. And if it is couples therapy, it's sort of a toss up...one of you has to be mentally ill. That can put a negative spin on the therapy if one individual is being perceived as "crazy" and the person causing the problems. And what if you are coming in for something you're very sensitive about, or that you want private? What if you have a security clearance or have to apply for life insurance? Not only is this not confidential (like you think), we have to keep records proving that you have a mental illness and be prepared to submit those to the insurance company or a court of law if subpoenaed. In my opinion, many of the topics that are covered in therapy can best be addressed in coaching because there is no diagnosis and no record keeping to be audited or subpoenaed. Also, coaching allows for you (the client) to hold the reins, not me and/or the insurance company. Coaching is more goal-oriented and solution-focused. It gets wrapped up quickly. With all that said, I am encouraging more coaching for clients, especially with any relationship or sexuality issues.

There is no typical Reiki "protocol". Reiki can be administered by anyone who has training, which could be a professional practitioner, a healthcare provider, a friend or family member, or even you yourself if you have been trained in Reiki. A quiet place is preferable, but Reiki can be done anywhere, no matter what else is happening either around or directly to the recipient. Moments of touch from a Reiki-trained practitioner can bring comfort in an acute or emergency situation, such as the onset of the flu, or after an injury or surgery. The professional or a friend should really have at least a First Degree level of training, however you should just find someone you are comfortable with so that your experience will be a positive one. A quiet setting where you are not disturbed is always desirable. Professional Reiki practitioners have a dedicated space or are experienced in creating the perfect therapeutic/healing space. They frequently play soft music during the session as a way of masking ambient noise, but let your practitioner know if you prefer silence. The sessions can be between 15 minutes and 60 minutes; I prefer to keep them between 20 minutes and 40 minutes to allow the person time to awaken. Also, keeping them brief prevents the person from sleeping for the entire session. You don't want to pay for a session where you sleep the entire time! Some practitioners have intake forms and/or conduct a health interview, especially if the practitioner has other training in healthcare or manual therapies, such as massage. You will be asked to sign a consent form because touch will be involved, however you will remain fully clothed.The practitioner will explain the process, and ask if you have any specific needs. Be sure to let the practitioner know if you have a health condition that might impact your lying flat on your back or front or if you have any areas that are sensitive to touch. The process involves light, non-invasive touch with the practitioner's hands placed and held on a series of locations on the head and front and back of the torso. The placement of the hands should never be intrusive or inappropriate, nor should there be any pressure. People often experience heat in the practitioner's hands, but sometimes the practitioner's hands feel refreshingly cool. Other common experiences are subtle pulsations where the practitioner's hands are placed or waves of pulsations throughout the body. People often comment how comforting and relaxing they find the experience of Reiki to be. Some people fall into a deep, meditative state, and some people just fall asleep completely. With that said, you will likely need a few minutes for your body to awaken after the session and the practitioner will give you time alone to do this. It is a good idea to have someone drive you after the session. How many sessions should you have for the complete benefit? Your practitioner may suggest a series of sessions. Four sessions is a traditional recommendation and gives you time to evaluate exactly what benefits you are receiving. This should be very relaxing and healing for you. Discuss with your practitioner how best to space the sessions to suit your needs and your schedule.