Excuse me, but why are sex toys still a taboo topic? We do not talk enough about them or, let me paraphrase that: we are constantly denying the fact that they exist and that it is completely healthy and normal to use one. Now that we have that established, let’s talk about the benefits of using sex toys, how to use them in the best possible way, and if you’re a newbie, how to choose the right sex toy for yourself. The sex toys on the market depend largely on your sex and your sexual orientation, so you can choose from flashlights and masturbators for guys, to vibrators, dildos and good flexi toys for women and the part of the LGBT population who is into that. But there is so much more to that – starting from the materials, the brands, everything. Take a look if you’re looking for your first sex toy or you want to know more about them. Know why you are using sex toys The first thing you should determine is the reason why you are using sex toys in the first place. Not only is this a great stress relief tool, or a tool that will make your masturbation even better, but it is good to use it in bed with your partner as well (more on that a bit later). In order to know which product you need, you first need to determine what the use for your sex toy is. For example, when you are choosing your first sex toy, it simply will not do to find the biggest one that you can find. 70% of women have an orgasm thanks to clitoral stimulation, which means that it is very important for them to find an external vibe. Internal vibes can be used externally as well, so this is the safest option. How to buy the best sex toy? Many ask the same question – how to actually buy their first sex toy. The answer is simple - go to the store and tell them exactly what you need. This might be quite embarrassing, especially if it’s your first time buying a sex toy, but know that the people who work there get new customers every single day, so it is definitely not unusual for them that you want to buy a sex toy. However, if you are really shy, you can buy sex toys online , but make sure that you do your homework beforehand. Not all sex toy brands are good, so it would be good to focus on trusted brands and reliable materials. Speaking of materials The sex toy is constantly going to be in contact with your genitalia, so the materials that you use indeed matter a lot. Jelly and rubber can sometimes be harmful as they are porous and thus hard to clean. As a result, the bacteria might linger on the masturbator or the vibrator, which can have serious consequences. The best materials to use are silicone, metal and glass – these are the materials that are always safe, and you can buy practically whatever sex toy you want that’s made out of these materials, without having anything to worry about. A quick tip to everyone out there: if you’re going to use a silicone sex toy, do not use a silicone lubricant with it. These two together will react and they will leave you with a ruined toy and an awful texture. Make it interesting in the bedroom Finally, the best way to experiment with your sex toy like a pro is to bring it into your relationship. This is still a taboo, and not many people talk about it, but it is definitely one of the healthiest ways to make your relationship, and most importantly, marriage , more interesting and fun. What you need to do though is talk about the actual sex toy that you are going to use. Regardless of the people in your relationship and their sexes, and regardless of the type of sex you are into, always make sure that your partner is fine with the sex toys you will be introducing. Talk about why you want to introduce that toy and once you do, you will be free to have some fun. Talking about sex toys is good. We should all use them, and we should all try and discover the power they have and how they make us feel. And if you want to use them with your special someone, go ahead and do it. But also, make sure to educate other people about them and talking about sex toys in general. It will be good for all of us.